Orphans?

seems to be the theme lately – not sure if it started with book club deciding to read the book Orphan Train – seems nobody’d heard of this chapter of our nation’s history, even the retired teachers – said nobody ever told them – maybe they should go with their students to the library once in a while – where I first learned of it, back when I was homeschooling the kids and taking them to the library – was a quartet of books called – get ready for it – The Orphan Train Quartet – so, being the good homeschooling mom that I was, when I found it, turned it into a study – wonder if they remember it? wonder if it stuck in a subconscious – hadn’t really even thought about it until today – thought rather ironic – that yet another book club that often publicizes – if the paper doesn’t override it with something else, since it’s not exactly local – also was going to be reading it so went and something said that somehow triggered it – older son wound up marrying – well, she wasn’t exactly an orphan, in the sense that her mom was still living when they got married but she hadn’t been able to take care of herself, let alone her two daughters since a while before they even met, which is something I liked about this book; it wasn’t just the story of the orphan train – it was juxtaposed with the story of another girl, in modern times – confession – haven’t actually read enough of the book, been jumping back and forth, anyway, to know if she was actually an orphan, but for whatever reason has been in the modern foster care system, which is what happened to my dil until she aged out and then went back to her family, but of course not able to go to her mother, who was by then being taken care of by her mother, so dil went to an aunt, which wasn’t the best thing, until son met her. He reminds me of the young man in the book that took an interest in her. Makes me proud of my son; he’s really changed her life. And, now, in a sense, she’s possibly getting a chance to pay that back – or would it be forward. Anyway one of the things she gave up in coming down here with son was taking care of her little cousins – she’s the oldest, being the oldest child of the oldest child – took her a while to adjust to having her own but she did and puts her first, at least in the sense of being a good mom and not still just thinking of herself, of course she has gotten older, not old, but…older than the mom of the kids that she’s now having an opportunity to take care of while their mom works, but not just then; this mom is younger, has the two she has now, is expecting another one, but seems to be so grateful to dil to take them off her hands even when she’s not working, not entirely sure exactly what’s going on but she certainly is not a mom who definitely wants her kids with her when she’s not working; has really upset dil about the whole situation, especially as she’s gotten attached to them and they’re bonding to her now to the point that even when mom has them and tries to take them home they don’t want to go. So…today she had the talk with her and told her that she has considered, herself, to go and file for temporary custody of them to just be able to keep them with her until she(mom) can decide what she wants to do – somewhat even besides that she’s got some situations that she needs to make some decisions about; things aren’t going the way she wants, maybe because of some things she’s done, but things are the way they are and it’s time to decide how she wants to handle what she’s done – now we’ll see – there’s even an interesting twist in the book along these same lines – really a hot button with a lot of folks

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I'm a transplant, born up north but raised in the middle, now I'm down here where you don't see too many snowflakes; I'll probably post just about as often (here at least)
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15 Responses to Orphans?

  1. Tessa says:

    So you homeschooled huh? That is something I wouldn’t want to do. I remember the point when my kids surpassed me and I couldn’t help them with their homework.

  2. yep, loved it; oldest one pretty much was always ahead of me but that doesn’t mean I couldn’t teach him anything; he still wasn’t older than me šŸ™‚

    • Tessa says:

      I have another friend who home-schooled her son all the way through til he went to college. Glad you loved it. You have my admiration.

  3. I wonder exactly what that means; my oldest was the first to be allowed to attend a technical program at our local community and technical college as a high schooler when they started allowing it – as opposed to only being able to take academic courses, which we could do at home, the technical ones being more challenging, not sure if taking actual courses at the college made any more difference than if we’d done them at home but for us, at least, would have been difficult to do, not like hub is in the field or anything, as is more typical, just so glad it worked out, because he also was allowed to start a year earlier than you could typically do for academic courses as well

  4. trying to remember if he had to pass them when he went when he was still in high school – not sure since he wasn’t taking academic courses, only technical – I know that somewhere in there was talk of math and seemed we had a hard time trying to figure out what exactly the math was; they implemented a graduation exam at that point that they’ve now decided wasn’t good and have discontinued it – another example of him being ahead of the game – as homeschoolers in our state, technically, legally, we wouldn’t have had to take it but the homeschool group we were a part of was one that wanted to everything that was required of public schoolers, just in case, while he/we thought that was the whole point of homeschooling, to not have to do that; won’t say that was the whole reason, because learned later there were other things that could have been done, but that didn’t help, but he ended up leaving home for his senior year and going to live with my oldest and was finishing up school there, where all he had to do, unlike here, where he would have lost everything he’d done if he’d tried that here since it hadn’t been done at a accredited school, was go in a declare that he’d been homeschooling and what grade he was to be in and they would let him take the classes they required and if he could pass them all would be good so he ended up doing 2 yrs. in one, to make up for those – because, yes, long story, could have been done but goes back to that being ahead and had somewhat reached the point of not listening by that point but then not really sure but that he was ahead anyway – point being I’d somewhat forgotten how all this worked but know that some of his math anyway counted by being embedded in his technical courses or was to be anyway, just not sure if it wasn’t enough is why he ended up having to take more – but anyway ended up taking 2 maths in that one year but guess if one’s geometry and the other algebra you can do that – seems like there were some others he had to double up on as well – not really sure exactly what he did but whatever it was, besides still taking at least one other, which may have been a 2 hr. so taking up the time of 2, technical course – they may have been on a block schedule to get everything in, know he had to take a bus to the next town for that technical course and it was the first year they were offering it to those students and he was the last one to get in – but however, he did it, then not real sure about exams but believe he had to take something but again, however, he graduated. so guess can’t really say I homeschooled him all the way through but that wasn’t necessarily the issue; I did up until he could take control of his education himself, which, to me, was the goal – those last 2 yrs. of high school are a whole big controversy anyway

  5. Are you thinking I said we did? no, we didn’t, but, yes, had we had the wherewithal like some, yes, you can – you can homeschool anything – why would you think you couldn’t?

    • Tessa says:

      I know nothing about homeschooling. I thought it was just regular schooling that could be done. Of course the state probably mandates what can be home taught??

  6. hm, not really, in AL – course most people follow the basics that are required in public school but electives are part of that as well, which is where the technical courses come in

    • Tessa says:

      I have to take your word for it because I know nothing about it. Especially when it comes to technical courses.I just can’t imagine technical courses can be taught at home, at least some of them.

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